tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17495298.post3663441549842470549..comments2023-12-18T07:29:05.161-05:00Comments on Real World Dialogue: Perspective Taking: Friend or Foe?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17495298.post-44752210092932921772008-04-11T13:47:00.000-04:002008-04-11T13:47:00.000-04:00I think that people need to forget that something...I think that people need to forget that something too painful occured because it is too painful to admit it , remember the original event, or relive anything too painful and eventualy the memory becomes diluted or like the saying goes, "what was I so angry at ? ", or " I forgot what I was fighting for "...I think that sometimes a trigger situation can bring forth like a volacnic erruption all the pain , anger and unbearable wound of the original wound or injustice like an ambush because so much repression, denial, or mild suppression has occured like "oh it wasn't so bad," or like "oh well I should just suck it up "....then the memory recoil springs forth so violently it can almost engulf you but internaly,quietly,and privately unbeknownst to anyone else but yourself which adds more pain and frustration. Consequently other people don't get why you are so outraged but privately you know....and then you wind up doubting your initial reaction or involuntary reflex , casuing you to then doubt yourself. You then may think , " wow, I overracted. I think people should admit the injustice ocurred and work at trying to prevent the injustice from occuring again ....I think that it takes true courage for one to someone rememer, validate ,and honor the injustice which caused a wound but it will be aired out and allowed to breathe and then eventually start to heal by it never being denied and invalidated ,minimized,or overlooked. Eventualy with the passage of time other more pleasant memories can be remembered. They won't necesarily replace ,bury, or eclipse the bad memories or injustice but share more room with some forgotten pleasant memories. The painful memories need to be given a voice, outlet, valve, and be honored but once you dignify the original injustice and acknowledge it, you can then maybe move on a little more and also shift your focus on the other forgotten pleasant memories that have been overlooked because of all the energy being expended on the more painful ones and enjoying more beauty in life. Hopefuly this may be helpful explaining why people may have a need to forget in order to move on. OK well here's hoping you can remember ! Peace and love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17495298.post-37232839368591459702008-04-10T17:53:00.000-04:002008-04-10T17:53:00.000-04:00Wow! I feel honored to be mentioned in one of your...Wow! I feel honored to be mentioned in one of your writings.To see our interaction represented on paper is another other world. I feel so much better to know that I actually heard your point of view in my way and to know you got a little bit of me your Dori! LOL. You are a phenominal writer of truths. I hope one day to represnt the facts in a clear an understandable way as you have. In just a moment of sitting with you I felt that our lives together came full circle. From this day on I will put more effort to hear what sometimes is not verbally said. I love you my big sister Raquel. My Kelly Belly.Your story is a journey that I am seeing in a birth of light. Continue to blaze a path of intellectual freedom for us lost souls.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com